One thing not to say to a person when they've failed a stress test or had stents placed to open up super clogged arteries

"You've got to be strong"  I know it's hard to see a grown woman cry but if my kids or husband aren't in the room and I feel like crying, I do NOT have to be strong.  I can be strong all day long when I'm helping my kids with homework or getting them ready for bed or playing SkipBo for the 50th time.  I can even try to be strong when my friends and neighbors ask me how I'm doing.  But when I'm alone in the exam room or hospital room, I DO NOT have to be strong.  I will weep like a baby if I feel like it.